A Life in the Day of Carrie Fancett Pagels, Ph.D
by Sandra Ardoin @SandraArdoin
Today, I welcome author Carrie Fancett Pagels to give us her experience with that ever-present need to make room for both life and writing. Welcome, Carrie!
Apparently some people think our story world characters are not “real” and that authors must enter into reality of everyday life. Yikes! Spoilsports AKA family and friends! But when one emerges from the writing cave, clothing has not washed itself, meals have not magically been prepared, and no driverless car has escorted children to appointments! Pesky, and sometimes boring, real life is also not under the writer’s control. That’s one of the benefits of being in story world – it can be written, changed, edited, and made to behave as the author wishes. Not so in everyday life.
Remaining grounded in Christian faith, and keeping Biblical mandates in mind, there is nothing that says escaping into a fictional world should take precedence over family life responsibilities. Keeping that in mind, and being obedient to Christ, lessens the obsessive draw to jump back into the writing cave when my son needs me or my husband. I’ve seen a number of authors fail to remain grounded in what our faith requires of us as parents and as spouses. And I’ve been guilty, too, of overextending myself with writing. There’s always a cost when doing so, and it isn’t pretty.
I’m certainly not great about keeping God’s priorities for my life in proper order, but one thing I try to do is to schedule myself for only a certain amount of writing activities a day. I also discuss my upcoming deadlines and responsibilities with my husband so that we are on the same page. I don’t normally write if my husband or son are at home. I try to keep myself available to them, although I do make exceptions. While my teen is at high school and husband is at work, I allot time to work at my writing. When our adult daughter needs me, I try to make myself available – she’s far more interesting than any of my characters!
Writing is a calling but God has blessed me with a family and He’s given us great guidelines for prioritizing those gifts. If you’re an author struggling to balance your schedule, like I often do, ask God – What would you have me do? What would please You? Then do it.
Are there certain times or days when you will or will not write?
ECPA-bestselling author Carrie Fancett Pagels, Ph.D., is the award-winning author of a dozen Christian historical romances. Twenty-five years as apsychologist didn’t “cure” her overactive imagination! A self-professed “history geek,” she resides with her family in the Historic Triangle of Virginia. Carrie loves to read, bake, bead, and travel – but not all at the same time! You can connect with her at www.CarrieFancettPagels.com.
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Jennifer
I try to stay away from writing on Sunday.
Sandra Ardoin
Me too. I made that promise to the Lord a long time ago when He nudged me to say that writing had become too much of an obsession. 🙂
Carrie Fancett Pagels
Good for you, Jennifer! I do actually do some blogging on Sundays but I think of the Overcoming with God blog Sunday/Monday posts as a ministry so it doesn’t seem like writing!
Tori Kayson
I’m with you, Carrie. Family takes precedence over writing. I don’t write on the weekends when hubby’s home. Enjoyed your post. Waving to you and Sandy. 🙂
Sandra Ardoin
Waving back! 🙂
Carrie Fancett Pagels
Hi Tori! I had to learn that lesson from fellow authors in my local Tidewater Christian Writers group! When I kept hearing that others were keeping their weekends just for family I wondered if that was doable. I was working as a psychologist and I was trying to do some writing when I could — mostly on weekends. It is so much better to keep that time available for family!